POF Update for Lack of a Better Title

I've been on POF for three weeks now and I've learned a few, possibly interesting, things.


1. Plenty of Fish needs a new name.  There may be "plenty" of fish but we are all crammed into the same small pond.  I swear I "run" into the same 50 guys day in & day out.  


2.  It is not smart to use the same profile picture on POF as you use on other social networking sites.  Say such as Facebook.  Luckily, I knew this one already but some of the guys I've "run" across on POF  are not as smart.  I've spotted one guy for sure on FB, but it is possible I've seen more but their profile pictures aren't quite as memorable as one with a horse in it.  Luckily I am not friends with any of the people I've seen nor am I friends of friends.   


3.  Either a lot of guys lie about their actual height (which I know is a real life problem) but an oddly large amount of men on POF are listed as 6"4'.  Um...hello, sexiness!  Tall men are so...yummy!  Yeah, if you couldn't tell, tallness a weakness of mine.


4.  A lot of veterans and/or military men are online.  A. Lot.  Like possibly half the guys on POF are vets or active military men.  It's sort of insane.  Speaking of insane, want to know what else is insane?  I have a hard time ignoring vets or military men when they contact me.  Doesn't matter if I'm interested or not.  I have a hard time NOT responding and being nice.  It's sort of like I can't say no to people who have risked their lives for our country.  Luckily, I'm not completely insane and do have a limit on how far I will go in saying yes or in being nice.  Though, this insanity has led to some slightly uncomfortable & probable awkward situations.  


5.  Men don't read.  Some, I am sure, just can't but most of them just don't.  It's annoying and actually cuts a lot of cute guys off my "list" just because they don't read and end up not use their words when contacting me.   I mean, how do  you respond to "Sup?" or "Wow...u b (insert descriptive word)". My favorite opening line was..."well hello there sexy pants..." Um...really?  I didn't even take the time to check out his profile, call me rude but sexy pants gets you automatically rejected, ignored & possibly blocked.


6.  I've noticed if I go out of my comfort zone and initiate the first contact I do not get a response.  It's sort of sad.  Possible proof I am always attracted to the unattainable.  Heh.  I'm hoping it has more to do with how my profile is set up or how their profile is set up and they are actually not able to respond to me.  That thought is a lot easier on the ego.  You know, instead of the thought that they are just uninterested and not responding to me.  There are a lot of invisible things that can be selected in a profile that would block certain people from being able to contact me or respond to me.



I have plans for a dinner date sometime next week but I've been putting it off because of #3 listed above.  He is nice enough, we do have some things in common, but he's definitely not what I am looking for.  I was being overtly nice because he was a wounded vet.  Turns out that you can be a vet and have to retire from the military due to an accident and not be a "wounded vet".  The two things can totally be two separate things.  His accident & recovery is an incredible story but one he says has scared off a lot of people.  I don't understand that but at the same time I guess I do.  I was only mildly interested to begin with but hearing his story and having a bit of insight into his struggles has not helped.  Really though I think it has more to do with his... over eagerness, I think would be the right word.  He over shares on some things and not enough about others.  Because of our conversations and his relieve in my response to his story I do not feel that I can cancel.  When starting this whole POF thing people said, "Go to dinner.  It's just dinner, what could it hurt?" Well, apparently it could hurt a lot.  Meeting and then telling him that the needed "spark" just isn't there will be a lot easier than bailing now & him thinking it has to do with his accident, which it doesn't.  


There are a few others who have been circling around meeting up but I don't know if it'll happen or not.


Maybe I'm doing it wrong but I just don't find any of this all that fun.  If something is this awkward it should at least be fun.  Most of the time I find it mildly annoying and at times stressful.  Annoying is not fun.  Stressful is not fun.