It's August so it's time for a dreaded check on my 2012 Goals.
#1. Wear each pair of shoes I have (at least once)... Well, I've been wearing shoes. I, however, have either forgotten to document it or my iPhone has refused to take photos (never enough storage space) when I do remember. I'm at 39 of 52 on my shoes and 6 of 23 on my flip flops.
I've acquired more shoes than I probably should have and I'm sure my count is off one way or another. I did get rid of 5 pairs of shoes without thinking about it so I feel good on that front. I just need to recommit myself to the task of wearing new shoes & actually documenting them.
Standing: Ok. Maybe. I'm good on the shoe part still but bad on the flip flop part so that totally equals out to an ok. Right?!
#2. Get rid of things... Yeah, the only things I've gotten rid of are the things Remington has eaten and those things (iPod/iPhone charger cord, iTravel(s), alarm clock cord(s), lamp/Scentsy base cord) aren't things that needed to be gotten rid of.
Standing: Bad
#3. Go on a date... I can safely say I have kicked this goals ass! Not only did I try online dating for a month, and had 2 separate dates from the experience (even if the whole thing wasn't successful), BUT I went out and got myself a man to date in real life. It's been a little over a month and it is going EXTREMELY well.
Standing: Excellent. Goal is complete.
#4. Sew a 50's style dress... Yeah, not much has changed since my last report, except we fixed the (new) sash on the dress we did do. We then promptly decided the dress still sucked. We have ideas on how to fix what went wrong with the making of this dress. Eventually, when we have the time & inclination we will try it again.
Standing: Good (still).
#5. Finally making myself my no sew fleece blanket... *Nothing but cricket sounds here...*
Really, you try making a fleece blanket in the Summer. In Arizona. Where it's 105-115 degrees during the day and if we're lucky in the mid 80's a night. I'm okay with this goal staying at bad for this quarter.
Standing. Bad.
#6. Get new glasses... I could give the excuse that I've used some of the money I had in mind for glasses towards getting the A/C fixed in my car (or at least trying to) but really that would be a waste of a good excuse.
Standing: Bad.
#7. Visit Bearizona... I've discussed it and thought about it but that's about it.
Standing. Bad.
If I hadn't completed one of the goals I'd say that this report is a pretty dismal one. But I DID complete a goal so I think it's not as bad as it looks. Of course, it may just be all the endorphins running wild due to the fact that I am dating an incredibly cute & sexy Irish man who is adorable & fun and who kisses me senseless every time I see him.
Showing posts with label POF. Show all posts
Showing posts with label POF. Show all posts
Wednesday, August 1, 2012
Monday, June 4, 2012
The Quiet Conclusion of The POF Project
I've come to think of this whole online dating this as "The POF Project". I would like to say I came, I saw, I conquered but honestly it is I came, I saw, I quietly ran away & am currently in hiding. Seriously, what the hell is wrong with people?! And by people, I mean men on POF. And by men, I mean it in the loosest term available. If I had to put it in POF terms there was less fish in the pond than there were guppies. Nobody wants to take home a guppy. I do realize that that is all I have ever been able to catch but I had have big hopes. And that will conclude my ridiculous use of "POF" terms, sorry.
So after my two perfectly nice but unsparktafying dates I wanted to go on at least one date I was actually excited about. After asking daily if I could quit yet and was told no, I figured it was a good compromise. I had 4 guys on the line, all had potential to be a date I was excited about. One went on vacation to Hawaii and apparently never came back. One guy apparently couldn't handle the fact that I wasn't ready to give him my # yet. One guy finally, FINALLY asked if I wanted to go out, to which I said yes but when our schedules didn't match up on the first try he jumped ship. And the last one asked me out, I accepted and then he completely fell off the face of the earth. All had potential to have funny stories told about them.
The first guy I can't really remember much about. Not a good sign, I know.
The second owned two swords. Yes! TWO. SWORDS. One was from Ireland. True story. That may have been my first clue to run...not walk...quickly away. He, also, had his own YouTube channel.
The third was extremely interesting but had the habit of having split personalities (?). The fun one and the one who liked to, what I refer to as, "Horse Whisper" me. He talked to me like I imagine you would to a skittish horse you are trying to "break". A lot of the time I felt I had to jump through hoops to maintain his attention. I'd back off and he's start being normal fun guy again. It was weird. I honestly was sort of relieved by the end that he apparently couldn't handle the fate that I had a very busy & booked up weekend. I mean, he asked on Thursday for a Saturday date, what did he expect?!
The last one was the one I was most disappointed about. He was a "brain doctor"...for real, thank you Linkedin for verification, which wasn't even the most exciting or interesting thing about him. In fact, it was a little intimidating but I bring it up because it was what we called him. We being Karie, Crystal & I...since they were the angel & devil sitting on my shoulder through out this whole process. He had a wicked sense of humor and rolled right along with mine and all the crazy, inappropriate (for online dating) things I threw out at him. I have no clue why he asked me out & asked me what I had in mind to do and then totally disappeared after I accepted and suggested a date & something low key. Really?! I hope the fall off the face of the earth hurt just a little bit.
Any guy I emailed first never responded. Any guy I was talking to and asked if they wanted to meet up never responded after that. What is the deal with that?! Telling someone no or they're not interested is a bit awkward but it can be done and quite nicely too. I know, because I did it. Maybe not all the time but any time I had someone send me a genuine email or request I was nice enough to respond. Especially if there was dialogue going on, I don't like wondering why someone just disappeared so I tried to not make others wonder. Apparently, I was doing it wrong.
I was over POF about 10minutes seconds after going "live" and after a little more than a month I am so over it I don't have the right words to describe how over it all I actually am. POF reminded me that men are idiots, and children no matter what their age, and a bunch of weirdo's who think women are dumb. I've hidden my profile for the time being and will decided after a cooling down phase if I want to delete it completely or keep it for another trial run down the road.
So after my two perfectly nice but unsparktafying dates I wanted to go on at least one date I was actually excited about. After asking daily if I could quit yet and was told no, I figured it was a good compromise. I had 4 guys on the line, all had potential to be a date I was excited about. One went on vacation to Hawaii and apparently never came back. One guy apparently couldn't handle the fact that I wasn't ready to give him my # yet. One guy finally, FINALLY asked if I wanted to go out, to which I said yes but when our schedules didn't match up on the first try he jumped ship. And the last one asked me out, I accepted and then he completely fell off the face of the earth. All had potential to have funny stories told about them.
The first guy I can't really remember much about. Not a good sign, I know.
The second owned two swords. Yes! TWO. SWORDS. One was from Ireland. True story. That may have been my first clue to run...not walk...quickly away. He, also, had his own YouTube channel.
The third was extremely interesting but had the habit of having split personalities (?). The fun one and the one who liked to, what I refer to as, "Horse Whisper" me. He talked to me like I imagine you would to a skittish horse you are trying to "break". A lot of the time I felt I had to jump through hoops to maintain his attention. I'd back off and he's start being normal fun guy again. It was weird. I honestly was sort of relieved by the end that he apparently couldn't handle the fate that I had a very busy & booked up weekend. I mean, he asked on Thursday for a Saturday date, what did he expect?!
The last one was the one I was most disappointed about. He was a "brain doctor"...for real, thank you Linkedin for verification, which wasn't even the most exciting or interesting thing about him. In fact, it was a little intimidating but I bring it up because it was what we called him. We being Karie, Crystal & I...since they were the angel & devil sitting on my shoulder through out this whole process. He had a wicked sense of humor and rolled right along with mine and all the crazy, inappropriate (for online dating) things I threw out at him. I have no clue why he asked me out & asked me what I had in mind to do and then totally disappeared after I accepted and suggested a date & something low key. Really?! I hope the fall off the face of the earth hurt just a little bit.
Any guy I emailed first never responded. Any guy I was talking to and asked if they wanted to meet up never responded after that. What is the deal with that?! Telling someone no or they're not interested is a bit awkward but it can be done and quite nicely too. I know, because I did it. Maybe not all the time but any time I had someone send me a genuine email or request I was nice enough to respond. Especially if there was dialogue going on, I don't like wondering why someone just disappeared so I tried to not make others wonder. Apparently, I was doing it wrong.
I was over POF about 10
Wednesday, May 23, 2012
POF Update for Lack of a Better Title
I've been on POF for three weeks now and I've learned a few, possibly interesting, things.
1. Plenty of Fish needs a new name. There may be "plenty" of fish but we are all crammed into the same small pond. I swear I "run" into the same 50 guys day in & day out.
2. It is not smart to use the same profile picture on POF as you use on other social networking sites. Say such as Facebook. Luckily, I knew this one already but some of the guys I've "run" across on POF are not as smart. I've spotted one guy for sure on FB, but it is possible I've seen more but their profile pictures aren't quite as memorable as one with a horse in it. Luckily I am not friends with any of the people I've seen nor am I friends of friends.
3. Either a lot of guys lie about their actual height (which I know is a real life problem) but an oddly large amount of men on POF are listed as 6"4'. Um...hello, sexiness! Tall men are so...yummy! Yeah, if you couldn't tell, tallness a weakness of mine.
4. A lot of veterans and/or military men are online. A. Lot. Like possibly half the guys on POF are vets or active military men. It's sort of insane. Speaking of insane, want to know what else is insane? I have a hard time ignoring vets or military men when they contact me. Doesn't matter if I'm interested or not. I have a hard time NOT responding and being nice. It's sort of like I can't say no to people who have risked their lives for our country. Luckily, I'm not completely insane and do have a limit on how far I will go in saying yes or in being nice. Though, this insanity has led to some slightly uncomfortable & probable awkward situations.
5. Men don't read. Some, I am sure, just can't but most of them just don't. It's annoying and actually cuts a lot of cute guys off my "list" just because they don't read and end up not use their words when contacting me. I mean, how do you respond to "Sup?" or "Wow...u b (insert descriptive word)". My favorite opening line was..."well hello there sexy pants..." Um...really? I didn't even take the time to check out his profile, call me rude but sexy pants gets you automatically rejected, ignored & possibly blocked.
6. I've noticed if I go out of my comfort zone and initiate the first contact I do not get a response. It's sort of sad. Possible proof I am always attracted to the unattainable. Heh. I'm hoping it has more to do with how my profile is set up or how their profile is set up and they are actually not able to respond to me. That thought is a lot easier on the ego. You know, instead of the thought that they are just uninterested and not responding to me. There are a lot of invisible things that can be selected in a profile that would block certain people from being able to contact me or respond to me.
I have plans for a dinner date sometime next week but I've been putting it off because of #3 listed above. He is nice enough, we do have some things in common, but he's definitely not what I am looking for. I was being overtly nice because he was a wounded vet. Turns out that you can be a vet and have to retire from the military due to an accident and not be a "wounded vet". The two things can totally be two separate things. His accident & recovery is an incredible story but one he says has scared off a lot of people. I don't understand that but at the same time I guess I do. I was only mildly interested to begin with but hearing his story and having a bit of insight into his struggles has not helped. Really though I think it has more to do with his... over eagerness, I think would be the right word. He over shares on some things and not enough about others. Because of our conversations and his relieve in my response to his story I do not feel that I can cancel. When starting this whole POF thing people said, "Go to dinner. It's just dinner, what could it hurt?" Well, apparently it could hurt a lot. Meeting and then telling him that the needed "spark" just isn't there will be a lot easier than bailing now & him thinking it has to do with his accident, which it doesn't.
There are a few others who have been circling around meeting up but I don't know if it'll happen or not.
Maybe I'm doing it wrong but I just don't find any of this all that fun. If something is this awkward it should at least be fun. Most of the time I find it mildly annoying and at times stressful. Annoying is not fun. Stressful is not fun.
1. Plenty of Fish needs a new name. There may be "plenty" of fish but we are all crammed into the same small pond. I swear I "run" into the same 50 guys day in & day out.
2. It is not smart to use the same profile picture on POF as you use on other social networking sites. Say such as Facebook. Luckily, I knew this one already but some of the guys I've "run" across on POF are not as smart. I've spotted one guy for sure on FB, but it is possible I've seen more but their profile pictures aren't quite as memorable as one with a horse in it. Luckily I am not friends with any of the people I've seen nor am I friends of friends.
3. Either a lot of guys lie about their actual height (which I know is a real life problem) but an oddly large amount of men on POF are listed as 6"4'. Um...hello, sexiness! Tall men are so...yummy! Yeah, if you couldn't tell, tallness a weakness of mine.
4. A lot of veterans and/or military men are online. A. Lot. Like possibly half the guys on POF are vets or active military men. It's sort of insane. Speaking of insane, want to know what else is insane? I have a hard time ignoring vets or military men when they contact me. Doesn't matter if I'm interested or not. I have a hard time NOT responding and being nice. It's sort of like I can't say no to people who have risked their lives for our country. Luckily, I'm not completely insane and do have a limit on how far I will go in saying yes or in being nice. Though, this insanity has led to some slightly uncomfortable & probable awkward situations.
5. Men don't read. Some, I am sure, just can't but most of them just don't. It's annoying and actually cuts a lot of cute guys off my "list" just because they don't read and end up not use their words when contacting me. I mean, how do you respond to "Sup?" or "Wow...u b (insert descriptive word)". My favorite opening line was..."well hello there sexy pants..." Um...really? I didn't even take the time to check out his profile, call me rude but sexy pants gets you automatically rejected, ignored & possibly blocked.
6. I've noticed if I go out of my comfort zone and initiate the first contact I do not get a response. It's sort of sad. Possible proof I am always attracted to the unattainable. Heh. I'm hoping it has more to do with how my profile is set up or how their profile is set up and they are actually not able to respond to me. That thought is a lot easier on the ego. You know, instead of the thought that they are just uninterested and not responding to me. There are a lot of invisible things that can be selected in a profile that would block certain people from being able to contact me or respond to me.
I have plans for a dinner date sometime next week but I've been putting it off because of #3 listed above. He is nice enough, we do have some things in common, but he's definitely not what I am looking for. I was being overtly nice because he was a wounded vet. Turns out that you can be a vet and have to retire from the military due to an accident and not be a "wounded vet". The two things can totally be two separate things. His accident & recovery is an incredible story but one he says has scared off a lot of people. I don't understand that but at the same time I guess I do. I was only mildly interested to begin with but hearing his story and having a bit of insight into his struggles has not helped. Really though I think it has more to do with his... over eagerness, I think would be the right word. He over shares on some things and not enough about others. Because of our conversations and his relieve in my response to his story I do not feel that I can cancel. When starting this whole POF thing people said, "Go to dinner. It's just dinner, what could it hurt?" Well, apparently it could hurt a lot. Meeting and then telling him that the needed "spark" just isn't there will be a lot easier than bailing now & him thinking it has to do with his accident, which it doesn't.
There are a few others who have been circling around meeting up but I don't know if it'll happen or not.
Maybe I'm doing it wrong but I just don't find any of this all that fun. If something is this awkward it should at least be fun. Most of the time I find it mildly annoying and at times stressful. Annoying is not fun. Stressful is not fun.
Thursday, May 3, 2012
Proof I Watch Too Much Criminal Minds
After reading though some of my POF responses I've discovered a very large tactical error on my part. One that will probably end up with me being the next story line for Criminal Minds.
If you recall I listed going to the park/bird preserve in my "About Me" section of my profile. I pride myself on being a "smart girl" and of taking care to not put myself in situations where I am an easy target for serial killers. Skills I like to think I honed while living in the same complex as Mesa's Serial Shooters. I know when I take photo's or post from the park I use the location tag but I figure I pretty much know who is watching me on Instagram and I am 99.8% positive that none of my Facebook friends are criminal intent stalkers or serial killers.
Why Criminal Minds? Well, if you've religiously watched the show, like I do, you too have learned all the nice places serial killers like to take their victims. If you've ever been to the Bird Preserve and really wandered around then you know that it is the perfect place for a serial killer to kill and dump a body. It's quite possible no one would ever find the body. If that happens we wander into the land of Bones, which I will try to stay clear of for this post to keep things less complicated and confusing. This is by no means an endorsement to any serial killers out there to actually use the bird preserve as a killing/dumping ground.
I am a cynical person so everyone on POF is suspect. If you are less suspect than others I will contact you back. If I feel like it. I'm not sure how between the three of us (Crystal, Karie & myself) we did not realize that my profile was going to be seen by men (which by default are men of suspect) who live in the area and may know of the bird park. I might as well have just placed a bright neon sign as my tag line that said, "PERFECT VICTIM WITH PERFECT BUILT IN KILLING/DUMPING GROUND. INQUIRE BELOW". Off hand I can already think of at least 5 of my favorite places (possibly 7 for the exceptionally talented serial killer) at the park that are ideal for raping/killing/dismembering/eating by a serial killer.
I have since rectified the error but now I am unsure how to proceed with the inquiries that I got mentioning the bird preserve. Do I ignore to be on the super safe side or do I let it play out and see if any murderistic tendencies show up during our chat?
If you recall I listed going to the park/bird preserve in my "About Me" section of my profile. I pride myself on being a "smart girl" and of taking care to not put myself in situations where I am an easy target for serial killers. Skills I like to think I honed while living in the same complex as Mesa's Serial Shooters. I know when I take photo's or post from the park I use the location tag but I figure I pretty much know who is watching me on Instagram and I am 99.8% positive that none of my Facebook friends are criminal intent stalkers or serial killers.
Why Criminal Minds? Well, if you've religiously watched the show, like I do, you too have learned all the nice places serial killers like to take their victims. If you've ever been to the Bird Preserve and really wandered around then you know that it is the perfect place for a serial killer to kill and dump a body. It's quite possible no one would ever find the body. If that happens we wander into the land of Bones, which I will try to stay clear of for this post to keep things less complicated and confusing. This is by no means an endorsement to any serial killers out there to actually use the bird preserve as a killing/dumping ground.
I am a cynical person so everyone on POF is suspect. If you are less suspect than others I will contact you back. If I feel like it. I'm not sure how between the three of us (Crystal, Karie & myself) we did not realize that my profile was going to be seen by men (which by default are men of suspect) who live in the area and may know of the bird park. I might as well have just placed a bright neon sign as my tag line that said, "PERFECT VICTIM WITH PERFECT BUILT IN KILLING/DUMPING GROUND. INQUIRE BELOW". Off hand I can already think of at least 5 of my favorite places (possibly 7 for the exceptionally talented serial killer) at the park that are ideal for raping/killing/dismembering/eating by a serial killer.
I have since rectified the error but now I am unsure how to proceed with the inquiries that I got mentioning the bird preserve. Do I ignore to be on the super safe side or do I let it play out and see if any murderistic tendencies show up during our chat?
Wednesday, May 2, 2012
Would You Date Me?
| About | Non-Smoker with Average body type | |||
| Details | 34 year old Woman, 5' 4" (163 cm), Christian - other | Ethnicity | Caucasian Capricorn with Brown hair | |
| Intent | XXXX is looking for a relationship. | Education | Some college |
Interests
Music Movies Going to concerts Shopping Eating out TV
About Me
I always thought other people only did this.
I am completely
terrified to try online dating but I have a rule I try to live
by...
If I want to do something but I find it too scary I, first need to
figure
out why that is, and as long as it won't hurt me or
someone else, I just need to
get over it and do it.
At least once. So here I am.
I work full time. I
am currently in a serious & committed
relationship with my TV/DVD player. I
do, however,
enjoy being outdoors and spend at least 4 nights a week
wandering
around a park/bird preserve near me.
I lack the coordination needed for any type
of sport. I have
3 cats and some days they are the most intellectual and
interesting conversationalists I encounter. If that makes me an
elitist and
snobby, so be it. I love movies as long as I don't have
to read subtitles. I am
a girl, so romantic-comedies are always
good entertainment but sometimes there
just really needs to be a
lot of eye candy, shoddy plot lines and big massive
explosions
(Yes, I am a fan of Michael Bay and I'm not ashamed to admit that
The
Fast & Furious movies are on my favorite movie list). I tend to
say what I
think and often find what I think to be hilarious...
even if no one else gets
it.
I love animals & take care of strays when they let me. I will
notice
a squirrel or prairie dog running along the road while driving past
but rarely will see deer or elk while standing still 10 feet in front
of me. I
cannot live a day without music. Attending a concert is
just as energizing as
taking an actual vacation. I have severe
crowd claustrophobia but prefer a small
standing room only
concert to a sit down concert at a large venue. I've been
told I
have "socially acceptable" nerdiness. I'm not quite sure what that
means but it sounds good to me. I have never played Dungeons
& Dragons or any
online gamers games but I do worship at the
altar of Joss Whedon & Eric
Kripke and follow Wil Wheaton on
twitter/FB... If any of that made sense to you, we will get along just
fine. If not, well I am sad for you, but we can
definitely work with
that as well.
When I asked my friends for words that
best describe my personality
I got things like loyal & reliable, which sort
of sound like something
you'd say when describing a golden retriever or some
other furry
friend. I got loving, generous & helpful. To be honest I can,
also,
be high strung and moody but I like to think of that as meaning
I'm fun
& passionate...which are another word my friends used to
describe me. I
think I am AWKWARD but my friends don't
(usually) tend to see me that way. My
most favorite quote
regarding this situation is "...she is an inadvertent vortex
of
awkward moments so she just rolls with it. I have no clue why
cuz she isn't
awkward herself but awkwardness always happens
when she's around..."
So
there you have it...
First Date
No matter the situation first dates are
awkward. Period.
Mail
Settings
To send a message to XXXX you MUST meet the following
criteria:
Male
Live in United States
Must not have messaged
users looking for intimate encounters
or sex.
Must not be looking for
Intimate Encounter
Must not be looking for Activity Partner
Must not do
drugs
Must not be married
Must not smoke
|
I think I need to add an age range to my mail settings. I've gotten a lot of older men contacting me. I swear it's the power of the boobs.
I'm sure there will be plenty more tweaks that will need to be made the more I wade into this crazy online dating world.
To explain how I ended up joining POF I'd have to share the whole back story and the back story has back story so at this point I will just say I had a good reference. A good enough reference that the thought there may be more out there online than just weirdo's and skeezy men occurred to me.
Because I am me, and I am awesome, hilarity and hijinx ensued after I hit the “Finish” button on my profile the very fist time (when I joined, before I hid my profile). I should probably preface this with a back story on that, as well, but really one can only endure so much public humiliation and mockery in one go so I'm just leaving you with a my profile and the little nugget that I am actively on an online dating site.
*GULP*
To explain how I ended up joining POF I'd have to share the whole back story and the back story has back story so at this point I will just say I had a good reference. A good enough reference that the thought there may be more out there online than just weirdo's and skeezy men occurred to me.
Because I am me, and I am awesome, hilarity and hijinx ensued after I hit the “Finish” button on my profile the very fist time (when I joined, before I hid my profile). I should probably preface this with a back story on that, as well, but really one can only endure so much public humiliation and mockery in one go so I'm just leaving you with a my profile and the little nugget that I am actively on an online dating site.
*GULP*
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